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June 2008 – Single woman looking to play!

Full Letter: Any advice for a single woman looking to enter into the lifestyle? I am 37 years old and recently divorced after a twelve-year marriage. While the idea of playing was not the deciding factor in the decision to end the marriage, the overall, passionless existence didn’t help matters.

I would have much preferred to experience swinging as part of a couple, but to be honest I don’t want to wait for a future relationship to materialize.

Jack and Jill’s Answer: Every woman is different, in both what their looking for, as well as, their level of comfort. Some are very cool with going to swinger events and clubs to meet numerous people at the same time. This will ultimately save you a lot of time while offering a safe environment.

Others prefer to meet privately, one on one (or one on two if interested in a couple).

Whatever you prefer, events/clubs, or private meetings, it’s a good idea to join one of the numerous online swinger sites. Many have preferred rates for single woman.

Regardless of what your preference is, we offer a few sensible rules for most single women to follow.

If meeting solo for the first time (especially with a single man), meet in a public place. In fact, until you meet never give away your home address. For that matter do the same for your place of work.

If meeting with a couple, insist on speaking to the woman on the phone prior to meeting. If this doesn’t happen, it’s most likely a single man posing as a couple.

Pick a place where you feel comfortable. Try to stay away from a meal date. A café is a good choice. You don’t want to be stuck sitting through a two hour meal with someone you know isn’t for you within the first five minutes.

At first stick to first names only. In addition, do set up an email address just for dating purposes. A free Yahoo, G-mail, or Hotmail ad will do just fine. You want to be able to fade away if you choose to.

Remember while we always say honesty is best, that does not mean put yourself in jeopardy.
 

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About Jack and Jill

Jack and Jill reside in the Greenwich Village area of New York City.

Jack is 47 years old. He has been involved in the swinging lifestyle, both as a promoter and participant since his early twenties. His background in club and entertainment marketing, as well as his experience in swinging lends to his insights into the lifestyle.

Jill, 35 years old, prior to meeting Jack, had never participated in the lifestyle. With Jack she’s been swinging for four years and has been to events throughout the US and Canada.

Both Jack and Jill review all questions. When their opinions differ, both are stated. Please note that there are no finite set of rules to swinging and the answers here are the opinions of Jack and Jill, however they do reflect the overall ideals of Adult Socials.

In addition to their column, they counsel couples and individuals (privately and at seminars) on the subject of swinging, as well as, host lifestyle events throughout the US and Canada. As a couple, they bring a unique mix from both the male and female perspective.

Currently they are also working on a nonfiction novel on swinging written from a couple’s point of view. The novel draws on their experiences as well as hundreds of other couples involved in swinging throughout North America. The books intent is to quell myths and prejudices, while addressing issues that couples and individuals, novice and veteran, face.

Jack and Jill are not their real names. Like most couples involved in swinging, they feel the need to keep their real identities, for the time being, private. They welcome the time when society becomes accepting enough of swinging where discretion will not be a necessity but a choice. They are both working towards that goal.

At Adult Socials, we welcome differing viewpoints from the Swinger Community. If you disagree with any of the comments on this page and want the chance to have your remarks posted, please feel free to put your comments into an email. All correspondence is strictly confidential. Personal email addresses and full names are never posted. In the event that we receive numerous rebuttals, we will post the most concise and well written (in our opinion).

While we cannot guarantee the posting of your email Jack and Jill make every attempt to answer the numerous correspondences they receive each week.

Questions, comments and/or rebuttals to Jack and Jill should be sent to  Jack & Jill. 

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