FSG_31_5_Promo_BW_3F.inddA while ago I read and reviewed those Fifty Shades of Grey books. You might recall that I wasn’t exactly impressed. Still, there’s been so much talk about Mr. Grey lately that I finally broke down and went to see the movie. It actually wasn’t even as bad as I expected it to be. It’s true that I set the bar quite low, but we can just leave it at that.

Plus, let’s look at the bright side! This whole Fifty Shades thing, is bringing the idea of alternative sex practices to a mainstream audience. I think that’s a good thing, and I’m sure most sex shop owners would agree.

Even if Christian Grey isn’t a realistic Dom, he still has women wanting to be spanked, and that’s a win in my book!


If you’re in the lifestyle, you probably are already having plenty of awesome sex! So maybe these tips are completely unnecessary, but here are some fun ways to incorporate some Fifty Shades of Grey style sexiness into your playtime..

Let’s Negotiate
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Draw up a contract with your partner, another couple, or someone you play with. It’s not like these things are really legally binding or anything. What fantasies are still on your to do list? This is the perfect time to discuss these kinds of things with your partners. You can both make up lists and then let the negotiations begin.

Leather, Lace, Silk

Experiment with different sexy textures. Try wearing something lacy or silky to your next on-premise party. Or invest in some sexy leather bedroom attire. You can even dress up your own bed with some satin sheets. These sensual fabrics can be an instant turn on.

Tease Me, Spank Me

Start of by teasing your partner with lighter sensations. Try using a feather tickler, or maybe even a Wartenberg pinwheel. Then get a little more rough! Have some hair pulling, ass slapping fun. If you really want to take things up a notch, invest in some paddles and floggers, or experiment with hot wax.

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Tie Me Up

Bondage play can be a lot of fun. Rope and handcuffs are both great restraints. Or you can take a cue from Christian and use a necktie. If you really want to take it to the next level, buy some spreader bars. Bowery Bliss in NYC even has a St. Andrew’s Cross available at their on-premise events. If you’re in the area and feeling frisky, it’s definitely worth checking out.

Red Room

Maybe you can’t afford to dedicate a whole room to kinky sex like Christian Grey. If you can, it’s definitely not a bad idea though. Instead, buy a chest and fill it with kinky adult treasures! Vibrators, blindfolds, handcuffs, anal plugs, and maybe a few of those paddles we mentioned. If you have the space, you may even want to invest in some sex position enhancers too.

Those are just a few of the fun ways you can add some kinky fun inspired by Mr. Grey into your life. Have you seen the movie? Did you enjoy it? How are you kinking up your swing lifestyle? Comment below.

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