The full list of terms, acronyms and slang relating to sex can easily fill several volumes, listed here are some of the more commonly used ones within the Swinger community.
Please keep in mind that some terms may differ from community to community so always be specific and ask others to specify when you are not sure of how something is meant.
AC/DC
Bi-sexual
B&D
Bondage and discipline
BBW
Big Beautiful Woman
Bisexual
Equally interested in both sexes
Bondage and Discipline
The use of any restraints during sex play, often employs scarves, handcuffs, ropes etc.
Back Door
Generally used in reference to anal sex
BDSM
Bondage, Discipline, Sadomasochism
Bondage
To tie up or be tied up as part of sex
Couple
Generally refers to a male/female couple within the Lifestyle. If a gay couple then the words gay, male or female should be added to avoid confusion.
Cross-dressing
Wearing clothing of the opposite sex. (Transvestitism)
Cut
A circumcised penis
Discipline
Includes mild spankings to painful beatings, any disciplinary action which arouses sexual desires
DP
Double Penetration. For a woman to be entered into both the vagina and anally simultaneously
Exhibitionism
Sexual desire to pose or show off during sex
Fetish
Sexual arousal through the use or wearing of certain object (leather, vinyl, plastic etc) or sexual attraction to specific parts of the body (feet etc)
French
Oral Sex
Foursome
Any combination of four people engaged in sexual play at the same time (usually two M/F couples)
Full Swap
Generally refers to sexual intercourse with someone other than your partner.
Golden Shower
See Water Sports
Greek
Anal Sex
Hedonist
Someone whose main objective is pleasure.
Heteroflexible
Person who is predominantly heterosexual but is open to some bi play during a threesome, foursome, group sex if a person of the opposite sex is also playing.
Heterosexual
Sexual contact only with the opposite sex (straight)
Homoflexible
Person who is predominantly homosexual but is open to some bi play during a threesome, foursome or group sex, if a person of the opposite sex is also playing.
Homosexual
Sexual contact only with the same sex (gay)
HWP
Height and Weight Proportional
Interracial Couple
Couple comprised of two people of different races
Jack and Jill Party
Originally used to describe a combination bachelor and bachelorette party. In the swinger community refers to what is commonly considered to be masturbation parties. Depending on the region some interaction between couples is allowed but for the most part you keep your hands on you and your partner only.
Kinky
Sexual activity that falls outside of the norm, also known as exotic.
Lifestyle, The
Another way of saying Swinging or the Swinging Lifestyle.
Ménage a trios
See Threesome
Newbie
Refers to someone new to Swinging
Non-Partner
Person that you are playing with that is not your regular/usual partner
Off-Premise
Events in which sexual activity is prohibited at the party.
On-Premise
Events where sexual activities are allowed where the event is being held.
Orgy
Event where unrestrained multiple sexual activities occur all in one room (Roman Orgy)
Partner
Term used to denote your usual partner. Generally part of a couple (husband/wife, life partner/ committed partner)
Play
Refers to sexual activity
Quickie
Sexual intercourse that is short in duration.
Raw
Sex without a condom
Role Playing
A practice where one or more people will take on the role of another person (doctor/patient, patient/nurse, teacher/student, and sports player/cheerleader)
S&M
Sadomasochism
Sadomasochism
The giving and receiving of pain as part of or the main focus of sex.
Safe
Not to be confused with safe sex...used to distinguish men and women who (through a vasectomy, hysterectomy etc) can not cause or become pregnant.
Safe Sex
Generally meant to mean sex with a condom
Separate Room Swap
A swap where the couples have sex in separate rooms.
Soft Swing
Where two couples will agree to watch each other during sexual activities.
Swapping
The exchanging of partners by two couples
Swinger
Term used to denote a person who is involved in swinging.
Swinging
Term used to indicate the practice of having sex with more than one specific partner.
Threesome
Any combination of three people engaged in sexual play at the same time
Transvestitism
Wearing clothing of the opposite sex (Cross-dressing)
Unicorn
Name given to a single woman in the Lifestyle Used because single female swingers are very rare.
Uncut
An uncircumcised penis
Urolagnia
See Water Sports
Vanilla
Denotes anything non-sexual and outside the swinger or alternative lifestyle. i.e. Vanilla party or Vanilla friends
Voyeurism
The act of watching others engaged in sexual activities.
Water Sports
Act where one person urinates on another (Urolagnia, golden showers)
XXX
Used to denote photos or actions where sexual activity is shown