AC/DC

Bi-sexual

B&D

Bondage and discipline 

BBW

Big Beautiful Woman

Bisexual

Equally interested in both sexes

Bondage and Discipline

The use of any restraints during sex play, often employs scarves, handcuffs, ropes etc.

Back Door

Generally used in reference to anal sex

BDSM

Bondage, Discipline, Sadomasochism

Bondage

To tie up or be tied up as part of sex

Couple

Generally refers to a male/female couple within the Lifestyle. If a gay couple then the words gay, male or female should be added to avoid confusion.

Cross-dressing

Wearing clothing of the opposite sex. (Transvestitism)

Cut

A circumcised penis

Discipline

Includes mild spankings to painful beatings, any disciplinary action which arouses sexual desires

DP

Double Penetration. For a woman to be entered into both the vagina and anally simultaneously

Exhibitionism

Sexual desire to pose or show off during sex

Fetish

Sexual arousal through the use or wearing of certain object (leather, vinyl, plastic etc) or sexual attraction to specific parts of the body (feet etc)

French

Oral Sex

Foursome

Any combination of four people engaged in sexual play at the same time (usually two M/F couples)

Full Swap

Generally refers to sexual intercourse with someone other than your partner.

Golden Shower

See Water Sports

Greek

Anal Sex

Hedonist

Someone whose main objective is pleasure.

Heteroflexible

Person who is predominantly heterosexual but is open to some bi play during a threesome, foursome, group sex if a person of the opposite sex is also playing.

Heterosexual

Sexual contact only with the opposite sex (straight)

Homoflexible

Person who is predominantly homosexual but is open to some bi play during a threesome, foursome or group sex, if a person of the opposite sex is also playing.

Homosexual

Sexual contact only with the same sex (gay)

HWP

Height and Weight Proportional

Interracial Couple

Couple comprised of two people of different races

Jack and Jill Party

Originally used to describe a combination bachelor and bachelorette party. In the swinger community refers to what is commonly considered to be masturbation parties. Depending on the region some interaction between couples is allowed but for the most part you keep your hands on you and your partner only.

Kinky

Sexual activity that falls outside of the norm, also known as exotic.

Lifestyle, The

Another way of saying Swinging or the Swinging Lifestyle.

Ménage a trios

See Threesome

Newbie

Refers to someone new to Swinging

Non-Partner

Person that you are playing with that is not your regular/usual partner

Off-Premise

Events in which sexual activity is prohibited at the party.

On-Premise

Events where sexual activities are allowed where the event is being held.

Orgy

Event where unrestrained multiple sexual activities occur all in one room (Roman Orgy)

Partner

Term used to denote your usual partner. Generally part of a couple (husband/wife, life partner/ committed partner)

Play

Refers to sexual activity

Quickie

Sexual intercourse that is short in duration.

Raw

Sex without a condom

Role Playing

A practice where one or more people will take on the role of another person (doctor/patient, patient/nurse, teacher/student, and sports player/cheerleader)

S&M

Sadomasochism

Sadomasochism

The giving and receiving of pain as part of or the main focus of sex.

Safe

Not to be confused with safe sex...used to distinguish men and women who (through a vasectomy, hysterectomy etc) can not cause or become pregnant.

Safe Sex

Generally meant to mean sex with a condom

Separate Room Swap

A swap where the couples have sex in separate rooms.

Soft Swing

Where two couples will agree to watch each other during sexual activities.

Swapping

The exchanging of partners by two couples

Swinger

Term used to denote a person who is involved in swinging.

Swinging

Term used to indicate the practice of having sex with more than one specific partner.

Threesome

Any combination of three people engaged in sexual play at the same time

Transvestitism

Wearing clothing of the opposite sex (Cross-dressing)

Unicorn

Name given to a single woman in the Lifestyle Used because single female swingers are very rare.

Uncut

An uncircumcised penis

Urolagnia

See Water Sports

Vanilla

Denotes anything non-sexual and outside the swinger or alternative lifestyle. i.e. Vanilla party or Vanilla friends

Voyeurism

The act of watching others engaged in sexual activities.

Water Sports

Act where one person urinates on another (Urolagnia, golden showers)

XXX

Used to denote photos or actions where sexual activity is shown