The full list of terms, acronyms and slang relating to sex can easily fill several volumes, listed here are some of the more commonly used ones within the Swinger community.
Please keep in mind that some terms may differ from community to community so always be specific and ask others to specify when you are not sure of how something is meant.
Bondage and discipline
Big Beautiful Woman
Equally interested in both sexes
Bondage and Discipline
The use of any restraints during sex play, often employs scarves, handcuffs, ropes etc.
Generally used in reference to anal sex
Bondage, Discipline, Sadomasochism
To tie up or be tied up as part of sex
Generally refers to a male/female couple within the Lifestyle. If a gay couple then the words gay, male or female should be added to avoid confusion.
Wearing clothing of the opposite sex. (Transvestitism)
A circumcised penis
Includes mild spankings to painful beatings, any disciplinary action which arouses sexual desires
Double Penetration. For a woman to be entered into both the vagina and anally simultaneously
Sexual desire to pose or show off during sex
Sexual arousal through the use or wearing of certain object (leather, vinyl, plastic etc) or sexual attraction to specific parts of the body (feet etc)
Any combination of four people engaged in sexual play at the same time (usually two M/F couples)
Generally refers to sexual intercourse with someone other than your partner.
See Water Sports
Someone whose main objective is pleasure.
Person who is predominantly heterosexual but is open to some bi play during a threesome, foursome, group sex if a person of the opposite sex is also playing.
Sexual contact only with the opposite sex (straight)
Person who is predominantly homosexual but is open to some bi play during a threesome, foursome or group sex, if a person of the opposite sex is also playing.
Sexual contact only with the same sex (gay)
Height and Weight Proportional
Couple comprised of two people of different races
Jack and Jill Party
Originally used to describe a combination bachelor and bachelorette party. In the swinger community refers to what is commonly considered to be masturbation parties. Depending on the region some interaction between couples is allowed but for the most part you keep your hands on you and your partner only.
Sexual activity that falls outside of the norm, also known as exotic.
Another way of saying Swinging or the Swinging Lifestyle.
Ménage a trios
Refers to someone new to Swinging
Person that you are playing with that is not your regular/usual partner
Events in which sexual activity is prohibited at the party.
Events where sexual activities are allowed where the event is being held.
Event where unrestrained multiple sexual activities occur all in one room (Roman Orgy)
Term used to denote your usual partner. Generally part of a couple (husband/wife, life partner/ committed partner)
Refers to sexual activity
Sexual intercourse that is short in duration.
Sex without a condom
A practice where one or more people will take on the role of another person (doctor/patient, patient/nurse, teacher/student, and sports player/cheerleader)
The giving and receiving of pain as part of or the main focus of sex.
Not to be confused with safe sex...used to distinguish men and women who (through a vasectomy, hysterectomy etc) can not cause or become pregnant.
Generally meant to mean sex with a condom
Separate Room Swap
A swap where the couples have sex in separate rooms.
Where two couples will agree to watch each other during sexual activities.
The exchanging of partners by two couples
Term used to denote a person who is involved in swinging.
Term used to indicate the practice of having sex with more than one specific partner.
Any combination of three people engaged in sexual play at the same time
Wearing clothing of the opposite sex (Cross-dressing)
Name given to a single woman in the Lifestyle Used because single female swingers are very rare.
An uncircumcised penis
See Water Sports
Denotes anything non-sexual and outside the swinger or alternative lifestyle. i.e. Vanilla party or Vanilla friends
The act of watching others engaged in sexual activities.
Act where one person urinates on another (Urolagnia, golden showers)
Used to denote photos or actions where sexual activity is shown